Peer pressure
In recent years, the phrase "peer pressure" is probably not too unfamiliar to many people. From the school environment to the office, from the family to the society, from real life to virtual space, "peer pressure" is really becoming a heavy psychological obsession for people. with modern youth.
I myself suffer from this syndrome, so today I want to bring you information about peer pressure and how you can overcome it.
The concept of peer pressure. Peer pressure, also known as peer pressure, is a common condition that most young people suffer from. After hearing it, no one will care, but Peer pressure will seriously affect your future if you lack life experience..
First, you need to know that peer pressure is actually very appreciable. When you're under this pressure, it doesn't mean you're incompetent or lazy, it just confirms that you're growing, you want to work, you're hungry for success, and you're responsible for yourself. Because only when people need to go up do they worry about their own setbacks and the progress of those around them. Besides, just like the saying "closer to ink is black - near lamp is bright", if you are exposed to talented and positive people, we will also develop this trend.
However, if you have to endure this pressure for too long without being able to get out, it will make you disgusted, lower yourself, lose motivation and confidence to continue trying on the path you have chosen. When motivation wears off, it's easy to lose ourselves and even become jealous and angry with our peers for their successes. Mental illness is also a threat that peer pressure brings. Symptoms of depression, anxiety disorders, prolonged stress, ... are the consequences of not being able to free yourself from negative emotions when there is always a heavy pressure on your shoulders. For young people like us students, these harms are really more dangerous because we are in a sensitive stage of the process of becoming adults. Therefore, finding a solution to overcome this situation is very necessary and it is an opportunity for us to better understand ourselves.
Although the number of adolescents with Peer pressure is large, it does not mean that adults are "immunized". It is also still an invisible pressure between colleagues and peers. According to a study, 6-7 out of 10 people suffer from peer pressure, especially in the learning and working environment.
Maybe, some people are lucky to have a full and prosperous life, you always find them happy. But these are few. There may also be people, who just want to show off the good that they want you to see. As for the hardships and suffering they had not shown before.
The cause comes from both your inner thoughts and external influences that make you preoccupied with the achievements of others.
It could be a comparison or acclaim from those around you for someone your age. And unknowingly you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be as successful as that person.
Or maybe according to psychologist Pham Thi Thao, who shared an article in the student newspaper, "At this age, most young people are still struggling and do not know what they really want. Therefore, we take other people, those closest to us, as our measure. When young people don't get what they want, they feel like they're falling behind.”
Appreciate your own feelings. You don't have to change or do something like anyone else if you feel uncomfortable or it's not having a positive impact on your life. This does not mean that you are stubborn and refuse to change in order to improve. Everyone has completely different lives, ideals and goals. Things that are useful to other people's lives are not necessarily what you need yourself.
Know your limits and conditions.
Sometimes, peer pressure can be resolved simply with outright denials. No one can pressure or force you to do things you don't feel right, or even criticize your decisions.
Always remember, the right to choose what to do, what to prioritize first is always in your hands. Every decision made is not right or wrong, only suitable for you and your life or not.
And if you feel like what your peers are doing isn't what you need, say no instead of trying to follow them, just because you want to be as successful as they are.
Peer pressure is always understood as a type of negative emotion such as jealousy, envy towards others. That's why many people try to hide their feelings, instead of sharing.
However, that's when you need to get support from a trusted person such as a parent, relative, friend, teacher, or career counselor.
A trusted person can listen to you and offer objective advice tailored to your situation.
Have a positive attitude towards peer pressure, that it is your opportunity to see what you are lacking.
You shouldn't just feel pressured or regretful because of what your peers have achieved and you haven't. Try to conquer it to become better yourself. However, you also need to make sure that these are the right values for you.
Under no circumstances should you compare yourself or try harder than anyone else.
You just need to do what's best and just enough for yourself!
